online dating

Hi everyone and welcome back to my blog. I did go over to Monique's house to have her cook me dinner and watch a movie. I guess kids call it watching a DVD these days but whatever its the same shit at the end of day. The food she made was not bad, but not that good. She wasn't as loose as she was when we went out the first time. I thought I was gonna be able to bang her but it never evolved to that. We fooled around a bit but she like wanted to watch the movie when I was kissing her, and I was in my head like bitch fuck the movie let's get it on, this is what people do they get together and rent a dvd and then they barely watch it because they make out the whole time, well this dumbass wanted to actually watch the movie, so I was like wtf yo and I left her place around 11pm and I never talked to her again. She never even emailed me so I guess the feeling was mutual but I was confused as to why she decided to invite me over in the first place. This is just another example of how fucked up female thinking is.

That bad experience aside, I believe I am starting to understand women more. Lol as I type this sentence I realize how dumb it sounds. I don't know shit about women lol that is why I am single in the first place. Anyways, I digress. Let me move on to another girl that seems to be working out better. I met this girl named Hanna who manages a spa. I am like damn this girl must have really soft skin because she works at a spa. I was always wondering if she would give me a pedicure sometime or something lol. I assume that when you go out with a girl that does something like this it comes wit fringe benefits just like it would with a masseuse. The only thing I was thinking though is that maybe it will end up being like it was on Seinfeld when he dated the girl masseuse. He wanted a massage and she got all pissy and was like yo that is not how I roll. Speaking of yo, I still need to watch this week's episode of Breaking Bad, man I love Jessie Pinkman lol. Hank is totally not going to die I think. I can't wait until Dexter comes back on, dying to see that show.

So I met this girl Hanna for coffee the first time I met her which was 2 weeks ago. Sorry I am only blogging about this shit now and not sooner. I really should be more diligent in my bloggin so sowwy. I met her for coffee at this really cool place here in Charlotte called Dilworth Coffee House. The place is really cool inside and was pretty busy when I showed up there around 3pm on a Sunday. She arrived a few minutes later and damn she looked good when she walked in. She was a little heavier than I though she was from looking at her pictures but that seems to be a common theme with these girls online. They are like ninjas in their ability to pose for the camera in such a fashion that makes them appear smaller than they do in real life. Anyways, we sat and talked for a couple of hours and I was really attracted to her. The place was quite crowded and I didn't really have a chance to kiss her or anything so I played it cool and just left. I have been out with her 2 other times since then but I don't have time to get into all that right now, will save that for the next blog entry assuming we are still seeing each other by then.

I have a lot of good news to report and I am not even sure where I should begin. Like I said in my last post, I had redone my profile and I had browsed through the online dating site and I had sent out a lot of messages to the new girls that had joined the site. I got a few messages back so what I did, was I was logging in everyday and clicking on this thing called new users where it shows you only the girls that have joined in the last 24 hours. I prefer to do it this way because let's face it, I have already looked through all the girls that are members of the online dating site that live close to me so if those girls haven't replied yet, they probably never will which is fine by me. The good thing about messaging the new users is that they haven't been approached by a lot of guys yet and they are obviously still single. So you get to them first and hopefully form a connection before they meet someone else. The thing is, I have gone through the whole site and some of the girls I was really attracted to that I messaged, they had been on the site for a month already, so while their profile is still up and stuff, some of them are already seeing someone and won't go out with you until they figure out if anything good is going to happen with that guy.

There are about 5 girls that I am actively talking to either online through the dating site messaging system or on MSN. I obviously try and get the girl to talk me on MSN but some girls don't use MSN which is just fucked up I mean, I don't care if you don't use it yet, fucking get it duh. Some times I lose my patience with women and how flakey they are. Anyways I have only been out on one date so far. It was on Saturday with this girl named Monique. She is 25 years old and she works for an entertainment company in human resources. Human resources has got to be the biggest fucking joke of a job if I ever saw one. They don't really do shit except be annoying and manage the payroll and gay shit like that. I told her to take a cab and meet me at this place called Mimosa Grill. It has been around since 1995 and it caters to farmers and farmers i like the main theme there. It was pretty expensive but the portions were big. I had the HICKORY GRILLED BEEF TENDERLOIN and she had the PAN SEARED ALASKAN HALIBUT. I dunno why people order fish in a nice restaurant unless it is a seafood joint. That is how I roll anyways. I will almost always get chicken, beef, or lamb.

We had some drinks and ate our food, we were both really hungry so we didn't actually talk too much during dinner we pretty much just had our faces in our food and were eating like madmen. We really were. After dinner we ordered some coffee and sat and talked a lot more. She told me that her last relationship was with this guy in the army and that they were together for 3 years and he wanted to have children and stuff but she totally wasn't into having kids at such a young age and ending up as some trailer trash ho with 3 kids. I dunno what it is with young girls having kids. They always end up single at 30 years old. Now they are these washed up skanky looking fat hoes with kids. There are tons of those women on the dating site but I just skip over them. Anyways she was pretty good company but I was in a bitchy mood. The conversations we had were not bad, I would like to sit here and say I had a great time but I didn't, it was just average. A few times she cracked some jokes and they weren't funny at all and I tried to pretend to laugh but I'm pretty sure I did a shitty job with that. When we left the restaurant, we hopped in a taxi and we headed to her place to drop her off. When we got to her place I was thinking just get out, I don't really like our personality. I just kinda sat there like bye, and she waned to kis me I guess so she leaned over and took the bull by the horns and kissed me. She was a much better kisser than she was a conversationalist. I have talked to her a few times since there and she said she wants me to come over this weekend so that she can cook me dinner and stuff. I told her I would come over on Sat but I am not sure if I am going to go. I may just blow her off, haven't decided yet.

I feel I owe everyone an apology. I thought I was ready to go to a club. Well I was ready to go to a club, in fact I successfully picked up a girl or well I was close to it when I got smashed in the face with a beer bottle from her ex boyfriend. I had no idea that he was watching me the whole time while I successfully hit on and was in the process of picking up his ex girlfriend. The only thing I remember was the feeling of the bottle smashing into my face and then the burning stinging feeling in my right eye. Some people helped me up while the bouncers tackled him. I was rushed to the hospital and I could only see out of my left eye at the time. The doctors had to remove all the chunks of glass from my cheeks and inside my mouth. They also had to remove a chunk from my right eye. I can see now again but only about 80% in that eye. I am going for surgery for it in April and they think they can fix the last 20%. I have a bit of a red dot permanently now in my right eye. I am hoping it can be a conversation piece heh :S

I canceled my membership to the online dating site I was a member of because my face was so fucked up and bruised and shit there was no way I could go on any dates with any girls. I have been pretty bummed out for the last almost 2 months now. I mean I feel good that I was able to walk into a bar and just start talking to chicks and everything was going great but I am also kind of spooked now because of what happened. I mean how do I know the next girl I hit on doesn't have some psycho exboyfriend 10 feet away? I haven't been doing much, just chilling and playing video games etc. I have been discouraged about the whole thing plus my face looked kinda harsh. Well my face pretty much looks fine now except for a few minor scars which I will have now forever.

I decided I need to get back into the game. I can not live in fear any longer so I decided I will rejoin the online dating site tonight and put my profile back up. I am going to have to start again in terms of meeting girls. I will have to go through the website and look at all the new girls that have joined since I was last on and send them some messages. I am not going to say anything about the "incident" and I am not ever going to mention it to anyone. One thing I am going to do though is join a mixed martial arts school and learn some grappling and some striking like muai thai or whatever its called. Speaking of which, in 2 days GSP will destroy Dan Hardy on UFC Also I will get to see my boy Shane Carwin smash Frank Mir in round 1.

Wow was I a noob! I spent hours last night reading websites about how to deal with women once you get them. For starters my body posture was all wrong. I remember distinctively leaning forward a lot and not sitting back. What you are supposed to do, at least what I read was that you are supposed to lean back in your chair and act really casual and not too interested. If you act too interested then they don't want you. You basically have to pretend or act like you are a perfect 10 and they are lucky to even be talking to you. You have to almost put them down playfully. If you act eager or desperate in any way than you won't get anywhere and it will turn them off completely.

What you talk about is very important. You have to tell them witty stories that demonstrate higher value. You have to prove to them that you are used to getting very attractive girls. You have to ask them stuff like "So what else do you got going for you other than your looks?" I know most of you are saying wow that is not what I would have imagined would be the right thing to say but the more I read about this stuff the more it makes sense. I think I have been the good guy too often and that is why I haven't been having much luck.

Now I feel all empowered and I almost feel like going out to a club by myself tonight and talking to strange women and testing these newly acquired skills. You know what, if I drink enough here I just might do that. Actually I have a better idea, I am going to go through my msn list and find myself a wingman and together we are going to go out and tear that shit up. I am going to have to teach him some stuff first but that's ok because it is still early

Ok I admit that I am totally gameless. Yes girls find me attractive enough to pursue, in other words they look at my profile on the online dating site and they are like well this guy looks ok and his profile seems ok so they message me and they are interested. What I mean by gameless is that I have no game. I don't seem to have a problem with the attraction phase but after that I get totally lost. I think I say the wrong things or I ask the wrong questions. I also think that maybe I reveal too much or simply that I reveal the wrong things and that I need to choose more carefully when I am talking to these girls. I said I was going to read some websites that explain how to have better game etc but I never did. I am not sure that simply reading these website will help. I think I might learn better by trial and error so that is what I am going to do for now. When I am done writing this blog entry I am going to read through all the messages I have ever sent to these girls and read all of my MSN chat logs to see where I might have gone wrong.

I am pretty sure I need to bring out my more sensitive side if I have one. I can't think how I am used to thinking. I can't be the hunter gatherer anymore. I need to be like the guy in the ad in GQ Magazine all suave and shit. Ok I changed my mind, I AM going to read some websites about what to do once you are on a date. I think I have seen before some lists of things to say or not to say when you are on a date. Meh. I am just going to stop here and start reading.

I do not understand women! I got an email from Rebecca saying I wasn't aggressive enough and she needs the kid of man that knows how to take charge. Wtf bbq sauce I thought this girl and I were really hitting it off... I thought I was doing everything right because she never said otherwise. This is the thing about people that pisses me off and more specifically the thing that women do. They don't tell you honestly how they feel about something. Why didn't she tell me I needed to be more aggressive grr I thought I was doing the right thing by moving slow and being respectful of her boundaries etc. She was responding god damnnit! She was smiling and laughing and appeared to genuinely be having a damn good time, I just don't understand women.

This online dating site has been great for meeting new hot women, but I seem to be lost what to do once I am with them. I'm just a regular guy with regular needs, I don't understand why women have to be so complicated. In my own mind I believe I am doing things correctly and I am getting positive responses but then this bomb gets dropped on me and I am like wtf am I doing? Do I know anything about dating and retaining a woman? Well, not really. I haven't been out with too many women and I prefer to just be fishing with my buddies.

I need to think about things completely differently. I have been reading some websites about picking up women and about what women want and I think my eyes have been opened a bit but I still have lots of studying to do of this strange race of human.

Well it's Sunday and I'm sipping on a bloody mary so I thought the title of this post would be appropriate. I have been chatting with girls all morning... still sitting here in my boxer shorts at the computer.... it's been one of those days. I am going over to a buddy's place in a few hours to watch football on his big screen and drink some beers with the boys. Yeah I know it's a sausagefest but hey it's what we like and need to do as men.

I have been messaging 7 different girls back and forth and have been chatting live with 3 of them on msn messenger exchanging pics, webcam shots etc. The first girl is named Erin and she is a redhead with short hair and tatoos. I certainly see a lot of this kind of girl in Charlotte but she seems cool. She is 28 and she works in a law firm as an assistant or something.

The second girl is named Eva and she is real prim and proper and she is 32. The kind of girl I would like to hook up with. Just talking with her a short time and I am realizing that I may need to work on some shit before I can score a chick like this with brains and shit. I think I need to stop cursing also but shit it's hard Anyhoo she is tall and curvy and has long brown hair. She is a yoga instructor and I am trying to get a date with her this weekend.

The third girl is some young skank named Isabelle. She is only 21 and she has been exposing herself to me on webcam over msn morning lol. I didn't realize there were horny young girls out there and in a way it's kind of a turn off. I prefer girls that play a bit hard to get. These horny young girls on these sites are really not what I am looking for. I am still chatting with her because I want to see if she has any substance to her or if she is just foofoo like so many young girls I seem to be meeting online and in real life.

Hopefully toward the middle of the week I will have more to report on and ideally have a date lined up for Friday or Saturday.

I'm just a regular dude who likes paintball, football, video games, hunting, and fishing. I'm 29 and I am a welder for a commercial construction company. I have had the odd relationship here and there but nothing serious. Most of the girls I was with got too clingy and always had issues with me hanging out with my friends, going on fishing trips etc. They didn't understand that this is something that men do and they need to accept it. I promised myself I would never hook up with another girl that didn't understand my needs and was understanding of who I am and what I need to be happy.

I decided to start meeting girls online using a dating site because I do not like going to clubs. I only go to sportsbars and most of the girls I meet there are already with guys or have already banged half the guys in the place. Also I am not looking for a girl that is butchy and a tomboy, I don't want her want trying to join us on fishing trips and stuff. I just want her to understand and pack me a lunch etc and wish me well while I chill with my bros. Hopefully I can find this kind of girl online. I look forward to posting about all my adventures on here.